1.Consider any long term intimate relationship. You might see them fighting on some trivial issues which arises conflict. In fact, a conflict has various functional and positive aspects as well. A conflict opens the areas for better understanding among the couple and teaches the importance of acceptance of others in a relationship. It helps to know each other in a more convenient way.
Couple counselling in Bondi is common. Recently, a counsellor in Bondi was interviewed and was asked about the different issues of conflict among couples. She said, “Most of the time when a couple has been asked to talk about the area of conflict it has been found that they discuss on perpetual issues. These issues are never ending. Problems that are linked to the fundamental differences in the couple needs to be managed tactfully. These issues cannot be solved or eradicated; a couple has to live with these issues through his or her entire life. But they need to learn how to manage them.”
2. The key essence of managing conflict is to keep dialoguing among the couple. Communicate according to the nature of the issue. If it is a perpetual issue or a solvable one make the conversation according to that. Manage the conflict rather than opposing the partner making a gridlock.
3. To master the conflict management one has to understand the fundamental values of the partner. Agreeing and understanding the point of view of the partner will eventually help to manage the relationship. These fundamentals can come from various values and unfulfilled dreams of any one of the partner in a relationship.